Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy

What does Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) help with?

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EFCT is a structured, evidence-based form of couples therapy that focuses on building emotional connection and improving communication. It helps couples identify and shift negative patterns that keep them stuck in conflict, disconnection, or hurt.

EFCT is based on attachment theory — the idea that all humans need to feel safe, loved, and emotionally connected in their relationships.

  • Rooted in attachment theory research that undergirds understanding of what makes relationships work

  • Goes beyond surface “content” issues to the emotional “process” issues at the root of couple struggles

  • Promotes healthy dialogue in a couple

  • Creates a safe space for partners to talk about themselves

  • Teaches skills to talk about self and others in a non-threatening way

  • Promotes understanding of each partner’s experiential reality

  • Allows for the discussion of day-to-day issues from a base of safety and trust in the partner

  • Connects present relational hurts to other people in each partner’s past

infidelity,

reconnecting,

intimacy,

communication,

life transitions,

rebuilding trust,

infidelity, reconnecting, intimacy, communication, life transitions, rebuilding trust,

  • “Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life. Tiptoe if you must, but take a step.”

    -Naeem Callaway

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What you can expect at Selah

We know that every person carries unique experiences and circumstances with them to therapy.

We believe your counselling experience should integrate a process that seeks to bring you hope and change through the following steps:

  1. You will pick whether you want to attend in-person, virtual or hybrid. 

  2. You will get started with your initial session. Relationship building is the most crucial stage during this appointment, as trust and connection are vital in the therapeutic process. It takes “on average”, two or more sessions before you can determine your fit with the therapist. We always say, “Don’t give up on counselling, but connect with a new counsellor if not a good fit.” Don’t hesitate to contact our Intake Coordinator at 519-281-1845 or intake@selahsupport.ca if not a good fit. 80% of your change in therapy is about the relationship with your therapist. 

  3. During your initial sessions, you will share your current circumstances and areas you would like to see changed, and then we will go from there. We want to get to know you.  

  4. Once you and your therapist feel you are comfortable and present concerns and desires are shared, you will begin to work through various activities, skills, and treatment methods We aim to work with you in partnership, helping you gain insight and new skills that create an environment for change. 

Let’s work together.