Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy

What does Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) help with?

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EFIT is a type of individual therapy based on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), originally created for couples. It focuses on helping individuals understand their emotional experiences, heal from past wounds, and build secure connections — with themselves and others.

EFIT is grounded in attachment theory, which teaches that feeling safe, seen, and supported is essential for emotional health.

  • Goes beyond how one logically understands their past to access how they truly feel about it

  • Validates ways of understanding one’s thoughts feelings that otherwise don’t “make sense”

  • Heals wounding from treatment by people in one’s past to allow for forgiveness and letting go

  • Resolves guilt and shame from how one treated other people in the past

  • Promotes empathy for self and others

  • Establishes feelings of trust and safety in interpersonal relationships

self-compassion,

empathy,

trauma,

grief,

abandonment,

establishing boundaries,

self-compassion, empathy, trauma, grief, abandonment, establishing boundaries,

  • “Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life. Tiptoe if you must, but take a step.”

    -Naeem Callaway

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What you can expect at Selah

We know that every person carries unique experiences and circumstances with them to therapy.

We believe your counselling experience should integrate a process that seeks to bring you hope and change through the following steps:

  1. You will pick whether you want to attend in-person, virtual or hybrid. 

  2. You will get started with your initial session. Relationship building is the most crucial stage during this appointment, as trust and connection are vital in the therapeutic process. It takes “on average”, two or more sessions before you can determine your fit with the therapist. We always say, “Don’t give up on counselling, but connect with a new counsellor if not a good fit.” Don’t hesitate to contact our Intake Coordinator at 519-281-1845 or intake@selahsupport.ca if not a good fit. 80% of your change in therapy is about the relationship with your therapist. 

  3. During your initial sessions, you will share your current circumstances and areas you would like to see changed, and then we will go from there. We want to get to know you.  

  4. Once you and your therapist feel you are comfortable and present concerns and desires are shared, you will begin to work through various activities, skills, and treatment methods We aim to work with you in partnership, helping you gain insight and new skills that create an environment for change. 

Let’s work together.